Random Thoughts

Today, I have just a couple of random thoughts, wanna hear it here it goes........



A friend of mine once said that, as we age we will need to fall back on our wants and settle for somethings.  I'm now realizing that this is true though I'm trying to fight it.  It's a harsh lesson that I just learned.

The guys we meet now at our age (30s) do have baggage.  While we were told to take care and get rid of ours, theirs are carried around, and we are supposed to deal with it.  Plenty of single females out there, so I guess they don't have any incentives to change. 

Sometimes we fall for a person's potential, as well as the potential of what we could be together.  But potentials are not reality and never will be. 



Finally, the famous but all so true.......

Never make someone a priority when you are just a thought.  It is so easy to fall into this trap when you are trying to put your best foot forward or make a good impression.  It is even harder when you are an understanding person, and it's just your nature to try to be reasonable.  It sucks when you realize that you are putting too much of an effort into something that isn't worth your time.  You live, and you learn.

Everything is a lesson.

That Awkward Moment

The awkward moment when you run into someone you know on Match, just happened to me.  I felt a ting of embarrassment, and slightly pissed off like they just invaded my space.  This is my realm, and it’s only for those whom I don’t know but would like to know.  

Given our history some would think it’s meant to be, but I think otherwise.  This guy used to be a coworker 10 years ago.  We both liked each other but never acted on it.  I was not 100% into him cause he still had a lot of growing up to do, but I did have enough interest to hang out with him.  He was obviously feeling me, but he was too shy to approach.  Looking back, I’m not sure if I would have entertained his interest; probably just have some fun and kept moving.  10 Years ago I was in my twenties, feeling myself and thinking I had this in a bag.

Prior to leaving our workplace he had met the one for him.  Later, I connected with him when he was looking for a job, and he was married, with his first kid on the way.  I was happy for him, and she was a nice girl.  So here I am thinking that was that, and I wouldn’t see him again.  

That was not the case.  I was shocked to see him on Match.  He tells me, he is too.  He is separated.  I hate seeing guys who haven’t taken the decency to go through the divorce before they start trying to associate themselves with a new chick or two.  He did manage to ask me out, and pay me some compliments.  Anyways he’s a nice guy, and I wish him luck.

 

Hope that’s the last time my path crosses with an old friend, ex etc., on Match.

Dust It Off and Move On

Must you lie?
Must you try
To be who you aren’t;
Was never
Or could ever
Be?  This is you
Playing and toying
With me.
I jumped too soon
As your words swoon
I stopped
Evaluate to see if I
Should carry this
On my plate
I changed my faith
And marched forward
Hoping to catch
A match.

INTERESTING MATCHES

So I've been getting the regular match email notices of “so and so” likes your picture, winked at you, or has sent you a message.

Whenever I logged in to view them, I'm never disappointed. There is something there to get me to stay logged in for a little while.  Earlier I mentioned that I don't read profiles, well I do now.  Some guys are genuinely sweet and are just looking for the true one, others you can tell they are just looking for whatever; some have learned their lessons and hope it’s not too late to have the special person in their lives.

Whoever said that guys don't read profiles must not know all guys. Yes,  they are visual characters, but the sincere ones at-least try to standout and read your profile so they can make themselves unique in some sort a way.

Reading their profiles made me realize that they too must have been told that we don't read profiles. I have seen several statements that have the following sentence: if you have taken the time out to read my profile please drop me a message.

There are so many profiles from the life story narrations to the 200 minimum characters that don't say anything; which to me is a sign of laziness and a boring person.

Once in a while you read a profile full of honesty. Some a little too honest, but they are refreshing.  I'm starting to like the well thought out meaningful profiles. If a guy takes the time to write a clear profile than we should take the time to read it.

One never knows who might be on the other end.

STEPPING BACK AND EVALUTING....

Sometimes things can get the best of you.  That's when one should step back and evaluate the situation.

I haven't heard from Good Humor in 3 days.  Is it time to panic yet?

Well, we will see....Let's say on the second day you sent him a text; just a normal greeting nothing big.  You did not get any reply from him.  It was no big issue to you, after all you had plenty of stuff going on to keep you occupied..  The following day at 1pm he sends you a message saying Hi.  Later in the day he calls after you did not reply, but you missed his call.  He ends up leaving a message saying he will try to call you back.  Six hours later, you finally saw his attempt to communicate, so you rush to send him a text message responding to him, and referenced the fact that you missed his call; no reply was sent back. You also tried to call him, but no answer.

What would you do in this situation?  I have to say I don't always take the best approach.  Sometimes I feel like I'm either trying too hard or not trying at all.  Is this some sort of dance that people who are dating go through?  If so, why?  At what stage in the relationship is it not acceptable?

We went from being able to talk to each other daily, to having a heard time connecting.  Being that he is away trying to get things together I understand that he probably has a lot going on that he needs to handle.  But I hate the “I am busy” excuse.  I don't like it when my girlfriends use it and I definitely don't like it when a guy I am dating uses it.  To me it implies that their life is more hectic and busier than another, but we all know that we can take a few minutes of our time just to text, talk or stop by.   It is not as if those few minutes will be a life time.  But hey maybe they are just not that into being friends with me, or dating me.  Somethings to consider….

Being that he is the one that made a request that we communicate with each other in some sort or fashion at least once a day, I'm stating to reevaluate the situation.  It is hard though.  The communication was great the attention was wonderful, and being around him I felt inspired.

Maybe this was only meant to be for a season, and the season has past.  Its a shame though would have like other results.  But such is life........ sadly.